Flower mood by Diana Stoyanova
So simple yet so powerful. These are words that can be as comforting as a cup of hot choco on a rainy day or that tight hug from a friend you haven’t seen in a long time.
For those who are stuck with their thoughts,
The world has been in a state of pandemic for almost a year now. Countries have closed their doors. Others have already reopened. A lot of people have lost a loved one or two, a job, a once in a lifetime chance to something, or even a step closer to their dreams.
For a 20-something stuck in the four corners of her apartment on a daily basis, all I could think of was all the wasted time and reflecting on the “what-could’ve-been‘s”, even though I told myself that it is another waste of time. No matter how ironic it may sound, I’m here to tell you: It’s okay to have these thoughts from time to time.
For those who are find themselves constantly worrying,
In order to snap out of the endless cycle of worries, I started to learn how to distract myself from these thoughts. Whenever I find myself unmotivated or worrying about things I have no control over, I usually play loud music to drown these thoughts. We have our own unique way on how to deal with these things.
These positive distractions could be a lot helpful than you think. Listen, sing, or dance along to your favorite songs. Eat the food you’ve been craving for. Binge-watch that feel-good show you always end up watching or try a new one. Play that online game. Try enrolling for that online course. Buy those shoes you’ve always wanted. Grab a pencil and start writing or drawing. It differs for everybody. It’s okay to hold on to things that keep you sane.
For those who are dealing it on their own,
If you do keep having these thoughts and you know its affecting your emotions, your sleep cycle, or worse, your physical attributes, you may want to consider telling someone about it. May it be a family member, a trusted friend or a mental health professional. The world (and your mind) may tell you it is embarrassing or that it is a sign of weakness, but sweetie, you are only human. You have your highs and your lows. There may come a time when it becomes unbearable and that no amount of distractions can help you out. It’s okay to ask for help.
For those who are in need of space to breathe,
There would also be times when you just need to be alone for a while; to be inactive on your social media accounts, to be unresponsive to messages and calls, to distance yourself from these negativities and these little make-believe-perfect-lives in social networking sites. It may also be their own way of coping with their own life. Do what you need to do for you. Do your social media cleansing. You are not obligated to explain your absence to anyone. Take as much time as you need to heal. It’s okay to take your time.
For those who are still finding their time,
Yoko Ono said “Some people are old at 18 and some are young at 20. Time is a concept that humans created.” Just because you hit the age of 20 doesn’t mean you can’t start over or even try new things you might find interesting. Just because others found their passion at an earlier age or the love of their lives or their calling and purpose, doesn’t mean you won’t get to find yours. All in due time, sweetie. All in due time. It’s okay to not have everything figured out.
For those who are fearing being stagnant,
Fitting in a box is boring for anyone who wishes to be extraordinary. Why fit in when you are born to stand out? You are still young. You are going to try and experience different things, meet a lot more people, go to the most picturesque places, and going to take more risks. You will continue to grow and to learn more about life, others and yourself. Hardships are inevitable when taking the path to betterment. It may result to some changes to your lifestyle, your likes and dislikes, your views, opinions and beliefs, which you are allowed to have. It’s okay to go out of the box.
For those who are emerging victorious,
I know it’s been a tough year for you, too. I’m glad you are doing okay. Whether you told your battles on social media for the world to know or only to a handful of people, or chose to keep it to yourself, I hope you let no one decide or dictate on how you should celebrate, or who you should celebrate your victories with. I also hope you get enough rest and continue winning in life. It’s okay to hit pause and take a rest.
A year has passed, another one is starting. Whether you are embarking on a new journey or still in the middle of your current one, I want you to give yourself a pat on the shoulder and words of affirmation, preferably on a daily basis.
Now, go get ’em, my brave little fighter!